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We could bring up a lot of stuff that the woman ideally needs to bring to the table, like being a virgin. But it's gonna be hard to find a chick like that in the 21st century western world. Most men will have to settle for either a non-virgin or nothing. So from the get-go, the setup is not exactly perfect, but the two can try to rationalize this away, e.g. by the chick's saying, "I don't really care about those past guys anymore; I have you now. You're so different from them that I don't compare you to them at all."
This is probably a lie, but whatever; it's what needs to be said to stroke the guy's ego, keep him feeling confident, and ease his insecurities. In reality, just be first is a legit theory because that first guy will have imprinted himself on her, molding her preferences indelibly to his characteristics. But, the married couple is gonna need to put on an act, in which they pretend that the past is the past and never enters her mind except in a negative way. Maybe the guy can be like, "Hey, it's like a war bride situation where the woman has to forget her past man, so she can move on to the next man, the same way in times past she did that when her village was conquered and her husband slain!" Yeah, the difference being, her husband was out-alphaed by the conquerors; in contrast, in modern society, she probably got dumped by an alpha and had to settle for a guy who was more beta.
Moving on, at any rate, the two are married and now they're gonna have disagreements. She could just be forced to submit, but that's domestic abuse so that's not really an option unless the guy is really that brutal. Most guys aren't that brutal. They're not gonna threaten to torture her to death if she doesn't submit. At any rate, how can they really make a lot of threats when she's probably a working woman who contributes much the family income, maybe even more than half, given the rate at which women go to college these days in greater numbers than men, and the fact that male blue collar workers are not always employed full time. It's a minority of women who end up as housewives; and their contributing money (even if they ultimately waste quite a lot of it on frivolous or dumb purchases) will make them feel entitled to some power, as they're playing the male role.
So anyway, when a disagreement arises, arguments can go around in circles, but ultimately this is a war of attrition, in which whoever has the most stamina is gonna win. The woman has a lot of weapons at her disposal; e.g. she can just stop being affectionate or whatever. At any rate, if the two of them feel locked into the relationship, such that they can't just bail, someone's gonna have to wave the white flag at some point and surrender to the other.
A lot of times, it's gonna be the dude who surrenders. Well, there goes some of the sexual polarity, because he's no longer dominant when he's bludgeoned or threatened or otherwise coerced into submission. It's gonna take away some of his ability to be enthusiastic about the relationship, including sex, and dominant in the bedroom. He's just gonna be like "whatever" and withdraw to his copes, a lot of which are probably the same copes he had when he was single. So, incel or in a relationship, the coping never really ends.
So what happens when he stops feeling and acting dominant? Presumably she's gonna lose attraction and want to be banged by some dude who won't put up with her shit. That's gonna be someone who has more options, such that he can take her or leave her, as he pleases, and still get pussy and have a family; or it's just gonna be some thug or other lowlife who doesn't give a shit; maybe he has a lot of options too because women flock to such men, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when he says, "I'm alpha enough that I don't need to take any shit."
Maybe there's some way in which he can become whipped without realizing it; like if she is more indirect and subtle about her coercion, such that he has plausible deniability that he's caving in. A lot of women don't really know how to do this, though, or they just don't give a fuck; or it's just their instinct to behave badly until their guy puts them in their place. But, a lot of guys don't feel like they have social support in doing that. It's a sad state of affairs.
This is probably a lie, but whatever; it's what needs to be said to stroke the guy's ego, keep him feeling confident, and ease his insecurities. In reality, just be first is a legit theory because that first guy will have imprinted himself on her, molding her preferences indelibly to his characteristics. But, the married couple is gonna need to put on an act, in which they pretend that the past is the past and never enters her mind except in a negative way. Maybe the guy can be like, "Hey, it's like a war bride situation where the woman has to forget her past man, so she can move on to the next man, the same way in times past she did that when her village was conquered and her husband slain!" Yeah, the difference being, her husband was out-alphaed by the conquerors; in contrast, in modern society, she probably got dumped by an alpha and had to settle for a guy who was more beta.
Moving on, at any rate, the two are married and now they're gonna have disagreements. She could just be forced to submit, but that's domestic abuse so that's not really an option unless the guy is really that brutal. Most guys aren't that brutal. They're not gonna threaten to torture her to death if she doesn't submit. At any rate, how can they really make a lot of threats when she's probably a working woman who contributes much the family income, maybe even more than half, given the rate at which women go to college these days in greater numbers than men, and the fact that male blue collar workers are not always employed full time. It's a minority of women who end up as housewives; and their contributing money (even if they ultimately waste quite a lot of it on frivolous or dumb purchases) will make them feel entitled to some power, as they're playing the male role.
So anyway, when a disagreement arises, arguments can go around in circles, but ultimately this is a war of attrition, in which whoever has the most stamina is gonna win. The woman has a lot of weapons at her disposal; e.g. she can just stop being affectionate or whatever. At any rate, if the two of them feel locked into the relationship, such that they can't just bail, someone's gonna have to wave the white flag at some point and surrender to the other.
A lot of times, it's gonna be the dude who surrenders. Well, there goes some of the sexual polarity, because he's no longer dominant when he's bludgeoned or threatened or otherwise coerced into submission. It's gonna take away some of his ability to be enthusiastic about the relationship, including sex, and dominant in the bedroom. He's just gonna be like "whatever" and withdraw to his copes, a lot of which are probably the same copes he had when he was single. So, incel or in a relationship, the coping never really ends.
So what happens when he stops feeling and acting dominant? Presumably she's gonna lose attraction and want to be banged by some dude who won't put up with her shit. That's gonna be someone who has more options, such that he can take her or leave her, as he pleases, and still get pussy and have a family; or it's just gonna be some thug or other lowlife who doesn't give a shit; maybe he has a lot of options too because women flock to such men, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when he says, "I'm alpha enough that I don't need to take any shit."
Maybe there's some way in which he can become whipped without realizing it; like if she is more indirect and subtle about her coercion, such that he has plausible deniability that he's caving in. A lot of women don't really know how to do this, though, or they just don't give a fuck; or it's just their instinct to behave badly until their guy puts them in their place. But, a lot of guys don't feel like they have social support in doing that. It's a sad state of affairs.