Fentanya replied:

This is exactly how I feel. Sex is better (hell, I didn’t even have a sex life pre-transition) and I can’t help but view the reduced libido as a good thing because I feel more in control. Also, I’m just so much happier with my life all around now because my love of self-feminization is so much more than just a kink and now I can appreciate the nonsexual side of femininity a lot more. I was already a small, skinny twink and it made me easier to feminize and I love what a cute tranny I’m becoming. Pre-transition, I looked pretty much exactly like the virgin character from the Chad memes. Anyone else here who was a skinny guy with glasses and short dark hair has probably had that same thought lol. Now my hair is getting longer, and I’ve been on hrt for about a year. My skin is getting softer and smoother, my acne and facial hair has mostly disappeared, my boobs are growing and my 34A bras are getting a little tight in the cups, my butt is getting softer and more full, my thighs and hips are getting a little thicker, and entire body is just so much softer and more feminized. I love it so much when my boyfriend caresses me and calls me “soft girl”. I don’t know how it took me until college to realize I was better off femme.


How to attract chad
What's true when interacting with normal males stops being true when you try to attract elite males in terms of attractiveness, these males have other options and thus you need to treat them well or they will go for someone else. Yes you should probably fake your personality, most males cannot tell.
Wear sexy outfits in public and take good photos of yourself to use for online dating.

Your strategy should be to hook him by being submissive and letting him use you as a toy, he is the one having power over you by virtue of just being really attractive, it doesn't matter that you dont need his money. Figure out what he is into and let him get that.

Do not expect or demand that he provide resources to you, if you need money that badly you should focus on other males that lack better options.
The only reason not to let a chad fuck you when you are androphilic is the STI risk, anal sex is the most risky form of sex and it's also a bit messy. You can still please him by giving him a handjob.

You should let him fuck other girls too and you might also want to tive him some gifts, not before getting his BWC of course.
As you become more attractive by taking hormones and having the right surgeries you will be able to attract males of higher quality. You might think you will never attract the male of your dreams but one year later you might have his dick in your ass.


Most males are already obsolete

With the technological advancement the majority of males are becoming increasingly useless and even a burden on society as a whole. Their Bodies are no longer needed for physical work and males as a group do not have any major mental advantages over females.

Most males are genetically ill-suited for reproduction and 1% of the male population is enough to impregnate all females that want kids. The fact that most males reproduce today is due to culture and this end up ruining upcoming generations genetically

Most males do not do work that cannot be done by females, there are a few areas where males are difficult to replace but less than 5% of the male population is needed to do these jobs. A lot of males today are not even net tax-payers, they end up using more resources from the government than they provide in taxes.
Why pay a male to do a job when you can have a machine do the job cheaper and better?

Males have far higher sex drive than females partly due to higher testosterone, if males on average want sex once per day while females want it once per week 85% of males would be obsolete when it comes to sex if it wasn't for the monogamy norm (which may be collapsing as i write this).

The solution
There are a number of options, many of these do not properly replace the male need for a female and non of them allow for reproduction. From best to worst:
  1. medical transition from male to female
  2. porn, masturbation, sex toys.
  3. escorts
  4. going gay
  5. zoophilia
  6. raping females
  7. suicide
option 2,3 and 6 does not offer any real validation, not sure about 4 and 5. Escorts are expensive and in many areas buying sex isn't legal and you may put yourself in legal danger by using these services. Most males prefer human females and thus 4 and 5 are not a good option for most people, zoophilia is also against the law in a lot of countries.

If we do not want males to to for 4 to 7 we should encourage option 1 to 3, not doing so would be highly irrational.
The biggest issue with solution 1 is that it stops being a good option as you get older, it's great when you are young (12 to 23 mostly) but at 30 it will be very difficult to ever pass and you may not become that attractive as a transwoman.


Your masculinity is not desired by society

Most males are no longer needed in our modern society, technology has made male strength mostly obselete and most males to not have any mental abilities not commonly found in females. Less than 10% of males are needed for sex and relroduction, most males are just a burden to society and thus we need to push these males to transition medically before it's too late.

Currently most males hold into their male pride but that will soon crash down as females raise their standards (becuase they can) and even more males lose their jobs to automation.

Violent males are mostly a problem for society, many males cannot control their own agression and end up in jail for stupid reasons, you do not gain anything from being a though guy starting fights with strangers, you are only putting yourself in danger for no good reason. We do not need "brave warriors" we need intelligent males able to make good decisions, this also holds true for modern war scenarios.
You being better at videogames than females does not have any value.

You being stronger as a male does not make you any safer, instead you are overall more likely to become a victim of crime. If you actually want to defend yourself a gun is far better than having oversized muscles requirering a lot of nutrients to maintain.

You are not judged less by your looks as a male, they are just less likely to tell how ugly you are, most people are like that.


Aggressiveness and prejudice about who should or shouldn't transition.

I notice more and more aggressiveness about who should and shouldn't transition. Some people who are determined that transition is for them are told that they should seek therapy and that they shouldn't transition and they are called '' mentally ill '' based on their reasons for transition.

That is utter bullshit. There are textbook transsexuals who regret their transition and there are people who are not so textbook who find happiness after transition. People shouldn't be judged on their reasons for having transitioned if the transition made them happier and more satisfied with life in general. I hate this '' competition '' behavior of who is the better tranny or the more valid tranny.

Even tranny chasers seem to join in on the discussion of who is a valid candidate for transition and who isn't. It absolutely disgusts me.
Even if the person was driven by fetish feelings, that doesn't mean they will regret transition or behave like a deviant after transition.
People have various reasons to transition and find happiness while presenting as the opposite sex.

I hate how some people are completely being crushed by others because they supposedly transitioned for the wrong reasons.
Who cares what the motive was, if the person finds transition was an improvement?

Nobody except the person who undergoes it should get a say on whether transition improved their life or not.

I transitioned MtF. I wasn't textbook transsexual but I have wanted to be a girl from a very young age. A part of my reasons to transition was that I wanted to be a heterosexual woman. That was preferable to me over being a gay man. Who is someone else to berate me and say that I shouldn't have transitioned for that reason? Especially if you know that I'm much happier and feel better in my skin now.

Another part of my reasons to transition was that I aesthetically wanted to look like a woman. Aesthetics have always been very important to me. Looking like a woman with soft skin, a clearer skin tone and more fat in the cheeks and having fuller, plumpier lips and breasts was a huge step above aging like a man for me. I never liked the aesthetics of a man for my own body. I'm androphilic but I didn't want to look like a man myself.
Last but not least, non-op trans women are trans too. SRS is not rocket science. Even in the better cases the result is still nothing like an actual vagina. If someone decides they can find a way to tolerate their primary sex characteristics as long as the secondary sex characteristics are in line with their prefered gender then that should be respected and even applauded. This will be an individual who will not have to go through a traumatic surgery with sub-par outcomes.

On my last post I had been very honest about my reasons to transition and a tranny chaser decided to attack me and tell me that I should get myself in therapy because I described my ideal of what an alpha male consists of ( he probably didn't match that ideal and then felt self conscious) and because I admitted to want to live as a shemale.

Yes, I watched porn and yes, porn influenced how I wanted to look as a woman. There is no reason to attack someone for that. Every woman is influenced by external sources in her desires to look like her ideal self. Porn is just an erotic version of publicity. No different than seeing the perfect woman in a shampoo commercial but society will judge you for the former one and not for the latter one.

If more and more people were aware that non-op transition is valid and that your reasons to transition should only be validated by yourself and not by what a critical society thinks of it, we would have less unhappiness in the trans community. Less people would undergo a butchering SRS surgery and then end up suicidal. Less people would feel shame because they are not textbook transsexual.

Textbook transsexuals are very rare. Most people who transition are not textbook transsexuals. Doesn't mean that transition was less right for them.
Edit: last but not least: this website shouldn't push people into transition. If someone has determined transition is not what they want they shouldn't be pushed into it. Incels aren't obligated to transition. I regularly see users here tell incels that they will be happier if they transition. That's bullshit. If someone has zero desire to be the opposite sex telling them to become the opposite sex and even forcing them into it is a recipe for disaster. My point was that people have different reasons to transition but that those reasons should come from themselves and not from external sources. Only transition for yourself, not for others.


The transmed position is weird and irrational
Transmed aka truscum want to invalidate trans individual based on some arbitrary criteria of what counts as "gender dysphoria" (which cannot even be measured).

They often go ahead and claim (with zero evidence and contrary to basic logic) that their arbitrary criteria determined whether or not you benefit from transitioning and this is of course incorrect.

Most horror stories you see on r/detrans are female who did suffer from body dysphoria and also had a more masculine personality, they did fit into the "born in the wrong body" narrative but still medical transition didn't work out for them.

the individual did prefer having a male body but didn't like the social role he got

This is what happens when you go on feelings "it feels wrong that people transition for sexual reasons" when in reality being sexually satisfied is very important for your mental health and this can be a valid reason to transition (if born male) or not to transition (if born female).

What actually makes sense in the real world is defining transgender as lifestyle/intention, if you dont want to transition or want to detransition now you are not transgender, you may still have gender dysphoria but you decided not to act upon that and thus you are not trans.

It takes a lot of effort to transition and become a beautiful women and what matters is that you actually put into the effort and were able to pass as the sex you want to be.

There is a lot of factors you need to consider
  1. how will transitioning affect your sex-life?
  2. how will transitioning affect your social life?
  3. do you want to have biological children in the future?
  4. would you be satisfied with what medical transition would provide you?
  5. will your transition mostly be covered by insurance or by the government?
  6. how will your medical transition affect your career?
  7. would you enjoy or dislike the transition process?
  8. how well would you eventually pass or come close?
  9. how much do you dislike your current body?


What does it mean to be female?
There are several competing definitions for this depending on ideology
  1. it's all about chromosomes
  2. it's about your brain
  3. it's about your gender identity
  4. you need to feel like you are a female or have dysphoria
  5. it's about having female secondary sex characteristics
  6. it's about looking like a female.
What actually works in the real world is 5 or 6, if someone look like a female you let her use female changing rooms or bathrooms.
2 and 3 and 4 will set you up for social difficulties and there isn't actually any way to test this scientifically, anyone can claim to have gender dysphoria or that they identity as female, there isn't even any way to test whether or not someone have a "female brain" with current technology and the notion of male and female brains are a misnomer.

1 would result in women with androgen insensitivity syndrome being classified as male, should we force them to use male bathrooms? there are also people with XXY chromosomes, etc.

Of course we can discuss exactly where to draw the line but so far rather inclusive policies hasn't caused any real world issues besides some people having a moral panic over a non-issue


How a girldick differ from a male penis
Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) changes everything, it will make your penis feminine.
  1. making them softer
  2. better smelling
  3. you will be able to get multiple orgasms
  4. Change in coloration
  5. Little to no spontaneous erections
  6. Less aroused by visual stimuli
  7. your dick will become a lot more sensitive to touch.
  8. you will be able to get full body orgasms from penile stimulation.
I used to hate my dick but now on HRT i like it and i no longer desire bottom surgery, my girlfriend also have a girldick and i suck it every day, i love her.


The male essence is being a loser
Males are biologically predisposed to become the losers of society
  1. being rejected by females
  2. dying in pointless wars.
  3. losing everything gambling
  4. wasting money on electronics you dont need.
  5. wasting money buying videogames.
  6. doing shitty jobs females dont need to do.
  7. paying large amount of money for sex.
  8. paying large amount of money for fake love.
  9. wasting money buying porn or sex-dolls.
  10. ending up in jail.
  11. being ostracized due to being vocal with unpopular beliefs.
  12. being discriminated against at schools because you are male.
  13. being discriminated against in the legal system.
  14. becoming homeless.
  15. starting pointless fights due to having high T.
  16. becoming victim of crime.
  17. getting cucked
  18. getting ignored or misled when you ask for help.
  19. dying childless.
  20. being tortured to death.


CIS + Trans lesbian relationships

There are plenty of lesbians (30%) willing to date trans girls, if you make yourself attractive as a girl you will not have a hard time attracting them.
There are however some issues to overcome
  1. your pasts will be very different.
  2. you may not be sexually compatible (which sexual things you want to do).
  3. a lot of gynephilic females dont want to see dick.
One advantage is that these relationships allows both to become biological parents which isn't the cass when 2 cis lesbians are together, you can use banked sperm or take a drug to restore sperm production.
Having SRS may not make it easier to date cis females, it will depend on how good of a result you get, its not really worth it if it doesn't look like a real vagina.
There are plenty of cis females that fetishize trans girls, its ok to be a chaser when you aren't a digusting male.


Transmaxxing works even if you don't improve your personality

u/bassabassa wrote:

There was a horrifying post I saw ages ago about a cis lesbian cohabitating with their LT trans girl girlfriend and snooped their computer(apologizing profusely for invading the privacy etc, sweet kinda girl) literally found their not so old incel posts about how they were dating an ugly lesbian but were looking forward to leveling up to a hotter one. She was horrified and blaming herself I couldn’t believe what I was reading she was already forgiving ‘her’. If anyone knows the post I’m talking about please post it. It still keeps me up some nights.

When you have a higher SMV than your partner you end up with power over your partner, you always have the option of leaving for someone more attractive while your partner would end up with someone less attractive if anyone at all.

Your personality is just one of many factors, you can get away with having an unattractive personality if other traits are desired
A lot of males that struggle with dating due to mental illness would be able to get a good dating life via medical transition, it's a lot easier to make the body more attractive than trying to cure mental illness, don't expect too much from psychiatry and therapists

You should ask yourself if you really want to adopt a fake personality in an attempt to attract females, it's not even clear what the ideal personality is and constantly playing a role you don't want to play is not good for your mental health. In reality you probably want to change your personality to what most people view as something worse, become more selfish instead of the other way around.

SMV = Sexual Marketplace Value = how attractive you are to the people you want to attract.


What does it mean to be transgender?

A lot of people make claims such as "i am afraid i am not transgender" but they never explain what they actually mean by being transgender, it's like it would be wrong to transition for self-improvement unless they meet some criteria.

Born in the wrong body?
One common pseudo-scientific justification is that people that are transgender have a brain of the opposite sex "born in the wrong body", there are multiple issues with this narrative such as the fact that binary brain-sex isn't a thing
There is no evidence that you benefit more from transitioning if you have a feminine brain, you might be able to adapt to stereotypical female gender roles easier but do you really want to be a stereotypical female? that's not for everyone.

Most children who seem to fit into this category but they usually desist and grow up to be gay if they go through puberty

Gender identity?
It's the idea that you are transgender if you view yourself as something you are not, at least not yet. You might be born male but feel like you are female inside. It is sometimes claimed that gender identity is innate but actual research shows that it isn't, the environment play a bigger role in this case.
It is estimated nonbinary individuals make up 25-35% or more of transgender populations (James, Herman, Rankin et al, 2016; Barr, Budge, Andelson, 2016; Mikalson, Pardo, and Green, 2014). However, these studies sampled only transgender populations and did not capture non-binary individuals who do not identify as transgender.

Nonbinary identities being common is to be expected since brain-sex isn't binary, the fact that you dont feel like you are a male does not always mean you feel like you are a girl.

Gender dysphoria?
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) provides for one overarching diagnosis of gender dysphoria with separate specific criteria for children and for adolescents and adults.

In adolescents and adults gender dysphoria diagnosis involves a difference between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, and significant distress or problems functioning. It lasts at least six months and is shown by at least two of the following:
  1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics
  2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics
  3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender
  4. A strong desire to be of the other gender
  5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender
  6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender
It's unclear how many in the transmed camp agree with this definition but it's very likely below 5%.

How it should be defined
You are transgender iff you pursue medical transition or staying as the sex you transitioned into.

Detrans = you have or plan to medically detransition back to your birth sex.

desist = you decided against medical transition despite desire to be the opposite sex.