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I'm not an expert on the physics of bicycles, but it seems like a fundamentally unstable vehicle. Come to think of it, it makes sense that the Wright brothers would've worked on both bicycles and airplanes, because both types of vehicles have to keep moving forward or they tend to run into problems (e.g. the plane will stall, and probably go nose down and crash).
Why do people ride bicycles instead of tricycles; what's the advantage that the bike has, that outweighs the advantage in stability that the tricycle offers? Maybe it has less drag, idk. Or maybe a tricycle has to have a center of gravity that's pretty low to the ground, or else it can tip over too; and for various reasons, maybe it's not all that efficient to be so close to the ground. I assume there's a reason why it was only when my dad became crippled that he started to ride a recumbent bike instead of a regular bike.
Anyway, friendships and other relationships seem to be the same way. There are a lot of instabilities inherent in them, because there's always stuff that may annoy one party or the other, about the other. But, what distracts from that are compensating pleasures and/or utilities.
This means that it can be pretty isolating to give up one's activities. For example, when Roosh said, "Okay, no more talk of fornication around the forum," a lot of longtime members told him he could go fuck himself. They had no use for him at that point. The relationship was conditioned on his providing a certain product.
Likewise, if one goes to prison, being removed from the community may bring an end to one's friendships (people may not keep up a correspondence, in the absence of the other activities they used to share); or if someone stops drinking, he may lose his drinking buddies, etc.
It's just another cost that has to be factored in, when one contemplates leaving an organization, or abandoning a joint project, etc. The forward momentum of the shared activity may have been what was holding the friendship together.
Same way with marriages. What holds them together is, they're cooperating to raise kids, and have a certain division of labor. Heck, sometimes that's not even enough to hold it together, it's just inherently that unstable of a unit. It's like how even Lance Armstrong may fall off his bike sometimes.
Anyway, people may be like, "Okay, I'm going to drop out of all my activities, and then not have that stress in my life anymore." Well, welcome to isolation, because that's often what that leads to.
Another factor that produces relationship instability is that often, people fell in love with an illusion. It may not become evident it's an illusion until certain circumstances arise. It's like, you may think you have a good relationship with your insurance company till it comes time to actually make a claim. At that point, you find out that what you thought you had, and what you invested in, actually never existed.
So then the question arises, did you gain anything at all, or was it a total loss? Or, does the devastation of disillusionment outweigh the pleasure one had while one believed in the illusion?
Hmm, that's a tough call, and it really depends on the situation and how you want to look at it. We know that chicks are perfectly fine living in a land of illusion created by some guy, as long as their basic needs are taken care of and they're having fun sometimes. They're even kind of okay with being passed from guy to guy and experiencing all these bittersweet emotions. But chicks kinda live for the emotional roller coaster, whereas as dudes, we're more goal-oriented; emotional ups and downs, and having to process negative feelings and occurrences, can be a distraction from serious work. Although at the same time, it can also be inspiring to become aware of problems in the world, to take arms against a sea of troubles and by opposing end them.
I'm working on this French stuff now, which is mostly solitary. But it was kind of inevitably so, because if it weren't solitary, it probably wouldn't be an exploitable niche; there would be people trying to interfere with my involvement in it. A lot of the stuff that's worth doing is both difficult and lonely, or someone else would've already gotten into it and taken it over; the higher-hanging fruit that no one else wants to fuck with is all that's left.
In solitude, I'll try to gain power, and see where that goes. Gaining power is always a good first step to trying to do anything else. When you have power, you can launch activities; then activities are how you meet people, till you get shut down, lose the people you were involved in those activities with, and have to start over from scratch by gaining power in some other area.
Why do people ride bicycles instead of tricycles; what's the advantage that the bike has, that outweighs the advantage in stability that the tricycle offers? Maybe it has less drag, idk. Or maybe a tricycle has to have a center of gravity that's pretty low to the ground, or else it can tip over too; and for various reasons, maybe it's not all that efficient to be so close to the ground. I assume there's a reason why it was only when my dad became crippled that he started to ride a recumbent bike instead of a regular bike.
Anyway, friendships and other relationships seem to be the same way. There are a lot of instabilities inherent in them, because there's always stuff that may annoy one party or the other, about the other. But, what distracts from that are compensating pleasures and/or utilities.
This means that it can be pretty isolating to give up one's activities. For example, when Roosh said, "Okay, no more talk of fornication around the forum," a lot of longtime members told him he could go fuck himself. They had no use for him at that point. The relationship was conditioned on his providing a certain product.
Likewise, if one goes to prison, being removed from the community may bring an end to one's friendships (people may not keep up a correspondence, in the absence of the other activities they used to share); or if someone stops drinking, he may lose his drinking buddies, etc.
It's just another cost that has to be factored in, when one contemplates leaving an organization, or abandoning a joint project, etc. The forward momentum of the shared activity may have been what was holding the friendship together.
Same way with marriages. What holds them together is, they're cooperating to raise kids, and have a certain division of labor. Heck, sometimes that's not even enough to hold it together, it's just inherently that unstable of a unit. It's like how even Lance Armstrong may fall off his bike sometimes.
Anyway, people may be like, "Okay, I'm going to drop out of all my activities, and then not have that stress in my life anymore." Well, welcome to isolation, because that's often what that leads to.
Another factor that produces relationship instability is that often, people fell in love with an illusion. It may not become evident it's an illusion until certain circumstances arise. It's like, you may think you have a good relationship with your insurance company till it comes time to actually make a claim. At that point, you find out that what you thought you had, and what you invested in, actually never existed.
So then the question arises, did you gain anything at all, or was it a total loss? Or, does the devastation of disillusionment outweigh the pleasure one had while one believed in the illusion?
Hmm, that's a tough call, and it really depends on the situation and how you want to look at it. We know that chicks are perfectly fine living in a land of illusion created by some guy, as long as their basic needs are taken care of and they're having fun sometimes. They're even kind of okay with being passed from guy to guy and experiencing all these bittersweet emotions. But chicks kinda live for the emotional roller coaster, whereas as dudes, we're more goal-oriented; emotional ups and downs, and having to process negative feelings and occurrences, can be a distraction from serious work. Although at the same time, it can also be inspiring to become aware of problems in the world, to take arms against a sea of troubles and by opposing end them.
I'm working on this French stuff now, which is mostly solitary. But it was kind of inevitably so, because if it weren't solitary, it probably wouldn't be an exploitable niche; there would be people trying to interfere with my involvement in it. A lot of the stuff that's worth doing is both difficult and lonely, or someone else would've already gotten into it and taken it over; the higher-hanging fruit that no one else wants to fuck with is all that's left.
In solitude, I'll try to gain power, and see where that goes. Gaining power is always a good first step to trying to do anything else. When you have power, you can launch activities; then activities are how you meet people, till you get shut down, lose the people you were involved in those activities with, and have to start over from scratch by gaining power in some other area.