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It's funny -- when I was a teenager, I used to say I just wanted to fuck a chick, and my male friends would say they wanted the first girl they had sex with to be someone they loved. They wanted it to be a meaningful experience rather than just something they did out of lust.
Chicks, though, aren't really as picky. They are totally fine with having sex with a guy who hasn't told them he loves them. In fact, if you haven't banged a chick yet, and you tell her you love her, she'll probably question it, and not accept what you're saying as valid, especially if you haven't known her a long time.
I think they can't really relate to that feeling of just wanting to get with the first chick who comes along and commit to her, because they always see themselves as having a lot of options, so they're not in as much of a hurry to exchange "I love yous" and get serious and emotionally expressive. After all, if you get deeply emotionally involved, then you have to disentangle yourself if you decide you want to leave the relationship; and chicks tend to have one foot out the door, ready to leave if shit isn't to their liking. They like to have that flexibility.
I guess there comes a point where once you're married to them and have kids with them and whatnot, then they want more reassurance about your love; but even then, I think they kinda question it, because they judge themselves pretty harshly as undesirable. So let's say you have a wife who's pushing 40; you might still find her beautiful, if you pay attention to her cuter aspects, as you'd be inclined to, due to your love for her that makes you focus on the good; but she'll still reject your compliments, so from that standpoint, it's almost kinda pointless to even make them. I guess what you're supposed to do, is just make very mild compliments, and let a lot be implied by your behavior.
I guess romanticism in what we regard as the classical sense is kinda overrated. The flowers, the cards, etc. aren't really wanted at the beginning, before the bang; there's a good chance if you give her that stuff too early, she'll break up with you, become more hesitant about being with you or putting out to you, want to throw away the gifts you gave her, etc. There's even a good chance she'll go fuck some random guy who doesn't care about her and doesn't do those gestures for her, but just makes it known to her that he's just interested in a quick fuck. It happened to me. https://incels.co/threads/my-girlfriend-went-off-with-a-few-guys-in-front-of-me-who-ended-up-taking-her-virginity-reddit.59606/
That's just the way it is. Doesn't it strike you as odd, that sex is supposed to be about love and intimacy, according to what we've been told by those (e.g. evangelical Christians who say that sex is supposed to be a special act between two lifelong partners) who say that sex isn't supposed to be just sport; yet chicks don't want to have sex with a guy who says he loves them; they would prefer to have sex with a guy who hasn't told them that? But, that's how it is.
Chicks, though, aren't really as picky. They are totally fine with having sex with a guy who hasn't told them he loves them. In fact, if you haven't banged a chick yet, and you tell her you love her, she'll probably question it, and not accept what you're saying as valid, especially if you haven't known her a long time.
I think they can't really relate to that feeling of just wanting to get with the first chick who comes along and commit to her, because they always see themselves as having a lot of options, so they're not in as much of a hurry to exchange "I love yous" and get serious and emotionally expressive. After all, if you get deeply emotionally involved, then you have to disentangle yourself if you decide you want to leave the relationship; and chicks tend to have one foot out the door, ready to leave if shit isn't to their liking. They like to have that flexibility.
I guess there comes a point where once you're married to them and have kids with them and whatnot, then they want more reassurance about your love; but even then, I think they kinda question it, because they judge themselves pretty harshly as undesirable. So let's say you have a wife who's pushing 40; you might still find her beautiful, if you pay attention to her cuter aspects, as you'd be inclined to, due to your love for her that makes you focus on the good; but she'll still reject your compliments, so from that standpoint, it's almost kinda pointless to even make them. I guess what you're supposed to do, is just make very mild compliments, and let a lot be implied by your behavior.
I guess romanticism in what we regard as the classical sense is kinda overrated. The flowers, the cards, etc. aren't really wanted at the beginning, before the bang; there's a good chance if you give her that stuff too early, she'll break up with you, become more hesitant about being with you or putting out to you, want to throw away the gifts you gave her, etc. There's even a good chance she'll go fuck some random guy who doesn't care about her and doesn't do those gestures for her, but just makes it known to her that he's just interested in a quick fuck. It happened to me. https://incels.co/threads/my-girlfriend-went-off-with-a-few-guys-in-front-of-me-who-ended-up-taking-her-virginity-reddit.59606/
That's just the way it is. Doesn't it strike you as odd, that sex is supposed to be about love and intimacy, according to what we've been told by those (e.g. evangelical Christians who say that sex is supposed to be a special act between two lifelong partners) who say that sex isn't supposed to be just sport; yet chicks don't want to have sex with a guy who says he loves them; they would prefer to have sex with a guy who hasn't told them that? But, that's how it is.
