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It could just be that she has just as low an opinion of you as every other chick, but she has such low self-esteem that she thinks you're all she can get.
Theoretically, if you're with a chick who has low self-esteem, you should be able to get her to do what you want, because she thinks you're above her, right? Well, not necessarily; one problem is that they think they're so undesirable that they just assume you're going to dump them or whatever, so they figure, why bother investing in the relationship. Also, if there's a way that they can interpret your behavior such that it indicates you find them unattractive or whatever, they're going to tend to interpret it that way. You might actually think she's beautiful, but she would interpret that as your having bad taste and/or being desperate for whatever mediocre pussy you can get, which just reinforces the idea that you must be pretty low-quality yourself; or she would think you're just trying to play her for a fool or something by flattering her.
Chicks, including fat chicks, actually have quite a lot of leeway for being considered cute even if they're not pretty or beautiful per se, since their personalities can play into that and affect perceptions, but they can be pretty hard on themselves, just like a lot of "truecels" are hard on themselves. https://vintologi.com/threads/the-blackpill-can-sometimes-be-a-bluepill.327/
People talk about chicks being vain and narcissistic but there are also quite a lot of chicks with a low opinion of themselves. The reality is that guys are strongly apt to halo a chick and her looks based on cooperativeness or her interest in him (see https://vintologi.com/threads/the-reason-why-chicks-preferences-wreak-so-much-havoc-among-men.326/ ), which I guess in a sense could actually be a form of desperation, in that it indicates how dysfunctional relations between the sexes are, that guys don't pick up on a lot of signals of interest from chicks, or maybe chicks don't even give those signals to begin with, except maybe once in a great while when they just randomly decide to try to hook up with a dude.
Theoretically, if you're with a chick who has low self-esteem, you should be able to get her to do what you want, because she thinks you're above her, right? Well, not necessarily; one problem is that they think they're so undesirable that they just assume you're going to dump them or whatever, so they figure, why bother investing in the relationship. Also, if there's a way that they can interpret your behavior such that it indicates you find them unattractive or whatever, they're going to tend to interpret it that way. You might actually think she's beautiful, but she would interpret that as your having bad taste and/or being desperate for whatever mediocre pussy you can get, which just reinforces the idea that you must be pretty low-quality yourself; or she would think you're just trying to play her for a fool or something by flattering her.
Chicks, including fat chicks, actually have quite a lot of leeway for being considered cute even if they're not pretty or beautiful per se, since their personalities can play into that and affect perceptions, but they can be pretty hard on themselves, just like a lot of "truecels" are hard on themselves. https://vintologi.com/threads/the-blackpill-can-sometimes-be-a-bluepill.327/
People talk about chicks being vain and narcissistic but there are also quite a lot of chicks with a low opinion of themselves. The reality is that guys are strongly apt to halo a chick and her looks based on cooperativeness or her interest in him (see https://vintologi.com/threads/the-reason-why-chicks-preferences-wreak-so-much-havoc-among-men.326/ ), which I guess in a sense could actually be a form of desperation, in that it indicates how dysfunctional relations between the sexes are, that guys don't pick up on a lot of signals of interest from chicks, or maybe chicks don't even give those signals to begin with, except maybe once in a great while when they just randomly decide to try to hook up with a dude.