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A chick can boss a dude around, or speak angrily toward him, or even hit him, and this is regarded as pretty normal these days. She can be like, "This is the way it's going to be, take it or leave it." She has no problem, e.g., being like, "It's my money" or "I have the pussy, so I make the rules," etc. if she's in a position where she can use that to her advantage.
But if a dude speaks angrily with a chick, that's deemed potentially threatening. If he hits her, then that's deemed controlling and physically abusive. And if he says, "I'm closing my wallet till you behave," that's deemed financially abusive.
The main relevance this has, is that if they end up in court at some point, she's going to play the victim, and talk about how he acted toward her, and if he tries to tell the court, "Well she ..." and bring up a list of stuff she said and did, and her manner in doing so, the court will pretty much just ignore this. They won't even respond to it; it'll just go in one ear and out the other. They only care about HIS behavior.
So for example, if he says, "Yeah, I hit her, but that was after she hit me" the court will only care about the "Yeah, I hit her" part, because they view any provocations from her as irrelevant; in their view, the non-abusive behavior on his part would've been to either just take her abuse, or walk out (and leave her with the kids, and let her collect child support from him, etc.) It's kinda like the "I never liked the guy" part of the defendant's statement in this video:
But if a dude speaks angrily with a chick, that's deemed potentially threatening. If he hits her, then that's deemed controlling and physically abusive. And if he says, "I'm closing my wallet till you behave," that's deemed financially abusive.
The main relevance this has, is that if they end up in court at some point, she's going to play the victim, and talk about how he acted toward her, and if he tries to tell the court, "Well she ..." and bring up a list of stuff she said and did, and her manner in doing so, the court will pretty much just ignore this. They won't even respond to it; it'll just go in one ear and out the other. They only care about HIS behavior.
So for example, if he says, "Yeah, I hit her, but that was after she hit me" the court will only care about the "Yeah, I hit her" part, because they view any provocations from her as irrelevant; in their view, the non-abusive behavior on his part would've been to either just take her abuse, or walk out (and leave her with the kids, and let her collect child support from him, etc.) It's kinda like the "I never liked the guy" part of the defendant's statement in this video: